I checked out the Kartini website today and found their meal plan. I was intrigued by the thought that "hyperpalatible" (sp?) foods (cookies, chips etc) are not included. Their meal plan also doesn't seem to be high enough in calories to me, although I haven't added it up yet. I know that my d is not eating that much in actual food yet. We have been relying on making up calories with high calorie shakes. My thinking was that as she leveled out on what was required we could easily drop the shakes and the food portions would be appropriate. All of the ED chatter that has been going on lately has shaken my confidence though so I'm wondering if I need to do something differently. I'm also really sick of trying to figure out what to feed her for all of these meals/snacks. My nonAN son is trying to eliminate dairy at the same time so I am finding myself cooking 2-3 variations on meals for just the four of us. I'm quickly becoming a crazy woman.

gracekl from the meal plans like Kartini's meal plan thread

Hi All,
I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with this one?  
My son (14) currently working on weight restoration phase 1 compares himself to girls/women and anyone he perceives as "thinner" than he is.  
He wants be to smaller than particularly skinny girls/women - including girls at school, on TV,  computer games etc. I'm spending a lot of time explaining his physique as a male is different, his growth rate is different as a male, musculature is different, hormones not the same. Etc 
I'm finding it a little odd to say the least. & I'm hoping this will go away eventually? 
& it's part of the nutrition starved brain taking a long time to heal.

The "fat thoughts and talk" seem to be persisting strongly even though we are gaining weight gradually. ie "I hate my body, my thighs are so fat,  I have no abs, my neck is disgusting"  We hear this talk over and over all day every day. . . . . .

Any thoughts?
josiejo from the Boys and comparisons to girls thread

this just part of this last 10 pounds or am I doing something wrong or missing something?  My son has about 6 - 10 pounds to gain.  He was at a good, solid weight, then he grew and lost weight which made him slip a wee under his lowest weight allowed (not to where he is underweight, but too low).  Now we are just on this crazy train of 2 pounds on 2 pounds off - 1 on 2 off, 3 on 1.5 off.  It has been like this for several months.  I got 5 on over our spring break, but it melted back off once we returned to work / school routines.  Ah!  The past month has been yo-yo-ing by a pound or so.  Then last week, I got 2.5 pounds on him and he grew 1/2 of an inch.  So... this all seemed good.  Then a week later, 2 pounds are off again.  It is driving me nuts, and makes me feel I am messing up terribly.  Has anyone else experienced this?  Is this normal to yo-yo with these last few pounds or.... I know with my own weight, it fluctuates like this.  I don't weigh really anymore since anorexia came to live with us... but I know back when I did, my weight regularly fluctuated by 5 pounds.  So, is it possible he is like this too where it just goes back and forth depending on what he has eaten, and I shouldn't stress too much over a few pounds?  I just feel like HIS pounds are so precious.  I just want these last 6 to go on and stay on...  As always, thank you!  BLURG! Hollyhill_USA from the 2 up 2 down... why can't I do this! thread

Hi all,

I'm interested in the titles/authors of books by mothers of children with an eating disorder. They can be good books, bad books in-between books, books about the mom's own experience helping his/her child, or other sorts of books about AN. My particular interest is the stories of caregiving/recovery in those books (and in some books not about a mom's own child, the recovery story or caregiving story may also be in the book.

I'm interested in books in English or Japanese, but feel free to mention books in other languages.

I'm also interested in accounts that pre-date FBT and family-centered approaches to ED, as well as newer books that are likely most familiar to us, that incorporate a family-centered approach.

Here are some books I already know about:

Harriet Brown, Brave girl eating
Laura Collins, Eating with your anorexic
Eva Musby, Title?
Bev Mattocks, Please eat
Becky Henry, Just tell her to stop

Thanks, all!!
YogurtParfait from the Let's make a list of books by mother of children with ED thread

Not that this is here nor there but I was just looking at our credit card statements from the past year and we have spent a FORTUNE on groceries buying special food for my daughter. It appears to cost a lot more to feed an anorexic than a non-anorexic - what's up with that! Jangled from the Cost of groceries thread